Mama On Her Own Terms | @RandomActsOfPastel | Empowered Motherhood
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Happy Wednesday from Aminah + Bryce!
To many, Alyssa Garrison needs no introduction, her pastels speak for themselves. BUT, in the event that you haven't had the pleasure of drooling over her 'gram, here's a little tidbit.
Alyssa Garrison is a feeler of feelings, lover of love - On the hunt for everyday magic, dreamy pastels and fairytale endings. With a degree in journalism, Alyssa launched her own website to give platform to her voice, sharing personal stories and honest musings with her audience from day one. On a mission to become a mom on her own terms, Alyssa found a donor and inseminated with the support of her doctor, family and friends. She expects her first baby February 2017!
(5:50) When did you stop and actually consider, hey wait, I don’t need a man to do this
(7:57) The voices of everyone around her: “you can’t rush things, you’re young, he’ll come along!”
(10:20) She found herself getting stuck in relationships that weren’t ideal because she wanted to fulfil her lifelong dream - being a mama
(13:00) Then, Alyssa started thinking the problem was SHE was ready and realized she didn’t need to be in a relationship to become a mom. She could do it better on her own (and we agree).
(16:30) She went off birth control and started thinking about it seriously. Some friends thought it was a good idea, others said “don’t give up already” - the narrative we’re taught is that we’re supposed to wait for this man to save the day. Her mom became a huge resource, talked about the fears, criticisms, etc
- It took way longer than she thought it would take for her body to get rid of the birth control
- Was she ovulating properly? How can you tell?
(22:15) She tells us about all the different options to consider when trying to get pregnant, like to turkey baste, or not baste
(26:00) But what would the baby look like?
- Would it be irresponsible to have a mixed race child with no coparent to teach the child of their origins?
(29:30) Who did she pick?
- hint, it wasn't from a book.
(36:50) Alyssa’s advice
- have a community behind you. Your family doesn’t just have to be made up of blood relatives, get creative!
- find a great doula, get health care providers that are on the same page, take the time to build a solid network of friends
(39:30) No gender reveal party (instant girl crush on her after this)
- Is she finding out the gender at all?
- Why does she think gender reveal parties are problematic?
(46:30) What’s Alyssa afraid of?
- hint, she's pretty fearless.
(45:50) 2 parents does not equal a family - love builds a family.
"I have too much love to give. I've always wanted to shower love upon things"
Alyssa Garrison, @RandomActsofPastel
Check out Bryce’s “Guide on Working with your Lover”
“I really believe that for us, collaborating on entrepreneurial ventures was inevitable. Had we met as friends or other versions of humans that neither of us held attraction to, we still would have found a way to become business partners in some sense. It just so happen that she dug the cut of my jib and let me put a baby all up in that.” Read it now
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